Sat, May. 7th, 2005, 11:51 pm
manlymanlyman: What does it mean to be a man?
What is being a man? Is it simply having male reproductive organs? In the way one behaves? A bit of both?
Fri, Jul. 15th, 2005 07:15 am (UTC)
Biologically speaking, to be a man only means you have XY chromosomes. Generally, this means that you will have a penis and other characteristics that are generally found on males.
But why emphasize this? Why emphasize difference on the basis of chromosomes or penises or vaginas? Why not group people according to the shape of their noses, instead? It seems rather arbitrary.
Sat, Oct. 29th, 2005 09:36 am (UTC)
frank_cotton: Male or Man?
Being a man goes beyond physiology. Anything with a penis, testicles, etc, is male. All humans with a penis and testicles are male. Not all are men.
There is the obvious difference between pre-pubescent boys and grown males. But being a MAN also involves a large abstract component. All cultures have some kind of rites of passage when a male, considered a boy, becomes a man. Being a man is as much in the eyes of others as in one's own eyes.
To be a real man requires courage, integrity, wisdom, maturity, sound judgment, a stoic determination, control of one's emotions, dominance of intellect over said emotions, resourcefulness, strength through gentleness, manners, respect for women, a sense of chivalry, and honour.
I'll sum it up with two quotes that capture what a real man is:
"Honour is the gift a man gives himself, and that no other man can take away...you must never mistreat a woman, nor malign a man; nor must you stand by while others do so".
-Liam Neeson as Robert MacGregor in "Rob Roy"
"Any fool with a dick can make a baby. It takes a real man to raise his kids right".
-Lawrence Fishburne as Furious Styles in "Boyz N the Hood"